Healing from Narcissistic Abuse: Caroline Strawson shares her Journey of Strength and Empowerment
Divorce is often one of the most challenging experiences a person can face. When compounded with the trauma of narcissistic abuse, the path to healing can feel insurmountable. In our Best of We Chat Divorce series, we revisit a deeply impactful conversation with Caroline Strawson, award-winning trauma coach and therapist, who shares her powerful journey of overcoming financial devastation and emotional trauma after her divorce.
Caroline’s story is one of resilience and transformation, offering valuable insights for anyone navigating the complexities of divorce, trauma, or both.
Shame, Fear, and Isolation
Caroline’s experience is one many can relate to: feeling scared, alone, and overwhelmed by shame. She speaks candidly about the emotional weight of staying in a toxic relationship for so long and the struggle to rebuild after financial devastation.
“I felt scared. I felt alone. I felt a huge amount of shame… Shame that I had stayed in the relationship as long as I had.”
These emotions, while incredibly difficult, became the starting point for Caroline’s healing journey. She emphasizes how vital it is to have compassionate support and the courage to take those first small steps toward financial and emotional clarity.
The Power of Perspective: Shifting from External to Internal
One of the most profound takeaways from Caroline’s story is her realization that true empowerment comes from within.
“It’s not about changing others—it’s about changing how we feel about ourselves.”
Caroline explains that while her ex-husband’s behavior remained the same, her perception of it changed. By understanding that others’ actions often reflect their own wounds, she was able to reclaim her power and stop internalizing their behavior as a reflection of her worth.
This shift—focusing on her feelings and responses rather than trying to change others—became a cornerstone of her recovery.
Practical Advice for Rebuilding
Caroline offers actionable advice for those struggling with financial trauma, shame, or the effects of narcissistic abuse during and after divorce:
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- Acknowledge Your Emotions: Allow yourself to feel and process your emotions without judgment. Healing begins with honesty.
- Seek Support: Having a trusted resource or community is vital. Surround yourself with those who understand and can provide clarity.
- Focus on What You Can Control: Shift your energy inward. Reclaiming your power starts with understanding your feelings and how you react to others.
- Be Patient: Healing is not linear. It takes time to rebuild emotionally and financially, but every step forward is progress.
Why This Episode Matters
Caroline’s story reminds us that even in the darkest moments, healing is possible. Her journey is a testament to the power of resilience, perspective, and self-compassion. Whether you’re navigating the aftermath of narcissistic abuse, a difficult divorce, or both, her insights offer a roadmap for turning pain into strength.
🎧 Listen to the full episode to hear more about Caroline’s journey, her advice for overcoming financial and emotional trauma, and how she found hope and empowerment on the other side. https://youtu.be/xh844DYejr0
As we reflect on 2024, we’re proud to feature Caroline’s episode in our Best of We Chat Divorce series. Her story is a reminder that even in the most challenging times, we have the power to transform our lives.
